First date sex

Kiss and forget or thirsty for more?

Times when women were considered sluty for dishing out on first date should have been long forgotten. We have sexual urges just like man, and are becoming more aware of them every day. I think it’s time for women to take matters in their own hands.

So, why is first date sex still such a bad thing? I say it isn’t, but your moves should depend on what you’re looking for. If’you’re up to an only physical relationship, sex on first date puts everything in perspective. Try to explain that to the guy, and make sure he knows you want only his body.

Sexual relationships can be a great thing. You can have guy no 1 you like, he’s sweet, gentle, talkative and a good listener, you have similar interests…but he’s just not what you need in the sack. Your stud no 2 saves the day here, doing everything you like, while shutting up. The bliss!

But, things tend to get a bit messier if you like the guy on your first date, don’t want to have an exclusively sexual relationship with him, but it so happens that you end up in bed.

Most women start panicking early next morning. It’s true that this is not the perfect way to begin a relationship, but get real, men are not such bastards your mother has warned you about. (With exclusion of those who are, but that sleazy SOBs are dead easy to spot) There is a great chance that he’s as confused as you are.

The key element here is to determine what you want. If the sex was lousy, think again if the guy’s a keeper. Bad bedroom habits can get only worse, and it takes a serious commitment to improve a guy. But, if you liked the sex, and want to keep the guy, here’s what to do.

Talk. Tell him that you had a wonderful time, and that you enjoyed sex as well, but that you feel it maybe happened too soon. Say that you want to get to know him more, and that you should connect better before you have sex again.

Watch what he does while you are talking. If he’s smirking and looking away, he’s about to run the hell out of there. Let him. But, a normal guy should be relieved you brought the subject up, and are so sound about it. Check with him what he wants from the relationship.

If this all went well, suggest a rewind of that ‘initial contact’. Start all over again and see how it works.

My point is: first date sex does not mean you’re a slut, easy or whatever. It also shouldn’t be a relationship spoiler, if the guy’s a normal person. Many, many things can break you up before you even properly started, and sex shouldn’t be one of them.

The final thought: He was there as well as you were. It’s not your solemn responsibility not to start the relationship with sex, so he should have said something, shouldn’t he? So, relax girl, things can get only better now!